I need white people to stop pretending consent was possible during slavery.
Stop lying to yourselves that those black cousins are the result of illicit love affairs & grasp that slaves could not say no.
When consent is not an option, when you’re only seen as 3/5ths of a human being & you have no legal standing? You can’t say yes.
I need white America to sit down for a sec. Look into the faces of black Americans with the same last names & figure it the fuck out.
Our ancestors were raped by your ancestors. Regularly. Some of the kids were treated kindly. Most were not. They were sold.
White mistresses punished the slaves for “tempting” master & congratulated themselves on that bloody work. Read the narratives.
Not the cleaned up ones either. Read Incidents in The Life of A Slave Girl & understand that Mammy was a victim, not the one who loved you.
She couldn’t care for her kids, couldn’t choose her husband or their father most of the time. She was a slave.
Millions of people died on the Middle Passage. Millions more died here at the hands of your ancestors. Own that.
Now you want to sing Kumbaya & keep oppressing our communities & erasing our contributions. Spare me the tired bullshit.
Male slaves fared no better. There’s a long history of them being raped, tortured & killed too. That was slavery. Stop romanticizing it.
Our children were fed to alligators as bait (feel free to look that up) died of starvation or exposure & that was slavery too. Yep, we were livestock & you use sickly livestock as bait.
Stop watching Gone With The Wind & fantasizing about beautiful plantations if you can’t accept what happened on those plantations.
House slaves had it better in the sense of access to food & possibly better treatment, but they were still slaves.
14 year old slave girls weren’t falling in love with the men who could beat them & everyone they loved to death.
Read the tales of enslaved women who killed their children to spare them. Read about people beaten to death as an example.
Sally Hemings could have left Jefferson in Paris. Of course her entire family was still in his power. And his “love”? Didn’t free her. Ever.
Go look at the pictures of former slaves backs. Whipped until they bled & left to scar so they were maimed for life & couldn’t run.
Also before you talk about the cleaned up narratives, remember that the people relating their stories knew lynching was always possible.
Records of slavery were deliberately destroyed so that former owners wouldn’t have to pay anyone.
That “peculiar institution” was generations of blood, pain, & terror. That’s what built America. Never forget that.
Now stop talking about anyone’s white ancestors like they deserve the fucking credit for the success of people descended from slaves.
American slavery began in 1619. June 19, 1865 was the last official day of slavery. Do the math on how long it takes to heal that wound.
After slavery was officially over? Black codes & Jim Crow laws followed. America’s history of oppression is longer than that of freedom.
Also before any dumb motherfuckers land in my mentions. I have a degree in history. I will read you to filth & bury you in sources.
Trust & believe there is no country here for people who want to romanticize a system that is still grinding away at my community.
All this fluffy fucking talk about American history to coddle white kids feelings & engender patriotism? You won’t get it here.
My ancestors built this country, I served this country & I will tell the damned truth about this country. Don’t like it? Fuck you.
Now let me get in my feelings about slavery before Africans were brought here. Because we weren’t the first people enslaved.
We were deliberately sought out for our skill sets & resistance to disease. Know why we were resistant? We’d had contact for years.
All of that “My ancestors never owned slaves so it has nothing to do with me?” Go look at those NDN ancestors again. See how many were free.
While you’re in there checking that out? Look up those old country ancestors & see how many benefited from slavery indirectly.
Also while we’re talking about NDN relatives? Yo, learn a name besides Cherokee. Better yet, learn about the genocidal tactics they faced.
Look up immigrant groups becoming white in America. Find out who had to bleed so they could gain access to white privilege.
Let’s really talk about the Red Summer of 1919 & how it wasn’t an unusual occurrence. Tulsa, Rosewood? They were just famous.
Let’s talk about welfare & who could access it. Hell let’s talk about who is collecting more of it right now.
Let’s talk about the primary beneficiaries of affirmative action (spoiler! White women!) & what it means to attack black people instead.
Shit, let’s get into the Great Depression & the Great Recession & who is hurting the most financially through both.
Let’s talk about conditions on reservations, in the inner city, & the violence faced by POC who try to leave those areas.
Hell, let’s talk about why we don’t see shows that reflect the American population set in the past, present, or future.
Go read Columbus’ diaries & see what “civilization” really meant to the people he encountered.
For that matter go read up on King Leopold & the Congo. I’ll wait while you cry.
That’s the thing about whiteness as a social construct in America. It’s not about white people, it’s about white power over others.
When we’re talking about white privilege? We’re talking about what it takes to shape this society based on oppression.
America is a young country with a lot of power because of genocide, slavery, & continuing oppression. Individuals build institutions.
All of these conversations aren’t about bringing out white guilt, they’re about ending this institution developed over the generations.
Also let’s be clear that America is sick with this ish across the political spectrum. It may manifest differently but it exists everywhere.
Before I go, let me also suggest that people who are curious about anything I tweeted about take a tour through Google with terms.
It’s not that I won’t answer questions, but there are books out there that I think everyone should read on slavery, whiteness, & America.” —Karnythia, laying it down with righteousness on Juneteenth — the truth about slavery and its lingering effects on America. (via paradiscacorbasi)
Bisexuals are not the exception; they are the norm! Study after study has shown this to be the case. How much more evidence do we need?
If we really want a powerful, cohesive, empowering queer community, then every single individual who cares about sexual freedom and self-determination — regardless of how they personally identify — has an obligation to speak out against the pernicious biphobia that continues to distort our science and our politics. Integrity demands no less.” —Dr. Lisa Diamond, lesbian social scientist, professor at the University of Utah, the researcher whose 10 year study showed bisexuality to be a stable orientation and author of “Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire” in a two part May 2012 interview by bisexual activist and columnist Amy Andre (via bisexual-community)
• These young men were asked whether they agreed with the statement “It’s okay to tell a girl you love her so that you can have sex with her.” Seven out of ten agreed that it’s okay.
• They were asked whether they agreed with the statement “A guy should use birth control whenever possible.” Eight out of ten disagreed and said a guy should not.
• And when asked, “If I got a girl pregnant, I would want her to have an abortion,” nearly nine out of ten said no, they would not want her to have an abortion.
These teenage men agreed: Deception to obtain coital access is okay; male irresponsibility in contraception is okay; but abortion is not okay—“because it’s wrong.”
Largely because of attitudes such as these, one million teenage women—one tenth of all teenage women—become pregnant each year, and two thirds of their pregnancies are not wanted.” —John Stoltenberg, Refusing to be a Man (via indigenousfeminist)
Once you start to speak, people will yell at you. They will interrupt you, put you down and suggest it’s personal. And the world won’t end.
—Audre Lorde (via thechocolatebrigade) the only theorist who can make me cry (via fromonesurvivortoanother)
And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you. And you will still flirt and paint your nails, dress up and party, because, as I think Emma Goldman said, “If I can’t dance, I don’t want to be part of your revolution.” And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.
I got a GREAT response on this post so I went out and bought all my ingredients and made an etsy page - I still need to fix it up, make to products and take pics but hopefully I can get the shop open by the end of the week! (after i spent all this money I REEEALLY hope all of y’all were serious lol *crosses fingers*)
So here’s what I have planned. (every ingredient is hyperlinked to a website explaining what it actually does for your skin)
The Bath Crystals are going to be epsom salts hand mixed with essential oils. 2 cup sized bags. (single use - of 4 time use if its a foot soak!)
All of these (for now) will be in the following 3 scents: Lemon, Lavender & Peppermint. They will be scented with all natural essential oils!
I’m still trying to figure out the pricing. That will be announced when I get the shop up and running. EVERYTHING WILL STILL BE UNDER TEN BUCKS. Times is hard but they aint that hard. I also need to figure out a name :/ my working title is “selflovebeauty.”
I’m excited! Get excited! Thanks for being interested!
So I’m trying to get the feel for a possible Etsy shop I might open.
So in the last few year I started getting into hand crafting a lot of body butters and scrubs and stuff. Its usually way better and cheaper when you make it yourself and can choose what natural product to put in it. I’ve always wanted to see of I could sell it online and now that I graduated college and could really use the extra revenue - it seems like the perfect time to try it out. If I get enough interest I will start buying starter ingredients and post pictures and get the shop started ASAP!
But essentially I would be selling
- Hand whipped Shea butter. I usually add extra virgin coconut & olive oil and essential oils to this. (I use it on my body and as a moisturizer/conditioner for my hair)
- hand mixed sugar body scrubs. This usually has anything from baby oil to honey, & lemon juice. I also like to infuse it with tea leaves cause it smells AMAZING.
- bath salt mixtures. Little bags of salts salts, again mixed with tea leaves to make the bath smell and feel good.
I’m not sure how much these would cost. I’m thinking nothing should be over ten bucks and I want to make a point to make them bigger than the sizes of like bath and body works and stuff.
Let me know if this sounds like a good deal? If so, spread the word! If it looks like a good amount of people are interested I can start going shopping for ingredients today!
Thanks in advance :)
/file under: thinks I enjoy doing other than being angry all the time at sexism and racism and fucked up people on the Internet
If you’re gonna call Pro-Choicers “Pro-Abortion”, then you’re also gonna have to call us “Pro-Adoption” and “Pro-Parenthood”. Because we don’t care which option you choose, as long as it’s your decision.
See, the thing about being pro-choice, is we don’t actually advocate for one specific option. Yes, we want to keep abortion legal so it’s therefore safe and no pregnant person has to die while seeking an abortion, if abortion is what they choose. But no one who is pro-choice actually tells anyone who is pregnant what they should or shouldn’t do. That would defeat the purpose of our position of being pro-choice.
We are pro-choice because we want people to be able to make their own decisions and their own choices about their bodies and lives. Which means we are Pro-Abortion, Pro-Adoption AND Pro-Parenthood.
Why is this hard?